Aug 19, 2010

Can You Save Your Marriage?

Relationships do break up. It’s just life. We are all complicated in our own right, put two of us together, living life in the same space and problems have to crop up from time to time.

That is just human nature. Most of the time, if we are willing to put some time and effort into our relationships then these differences can be overcome.

This is the main reason why it is depressing to see so many marriages that are in turmoil, and it is especially disconcerting to see them end up as messy divorces, so you end up asking how can you save your marriage?

Filing for divorce is not the solution for when a marriage has hit its lowest point. There are a number of solutions that require both partners to be fully committed in saving their relationship instead of giving up and allow it to crumble away to nothing.

The first step is counseling, which enables the couple to have a mediator in dealing with their issues.

In addition to professional services, there are a number of different things that can be done to save a marriage, it is not a complicated process and does not require much outside of both parties working towards the common goal.

Know that the perfect marriage is a myth.

Whenever two people are brought together, there will be problems, including the few that can grow into deal breakers in your marriage.

This is a natural result of bringing two people together. Even perfect twins differ in likes and dislikes. For the marriage to succeed, the couple must learn to deal with the rough patches and overcome their problems.

Seeking perfection will only destroy everything.

People make mistakes, work with your partner and overcome the problems you face, and you’ll realize it is possible to save your marriage.

Good communication is vital.
When good communication is insufficient, the marriage is doomed to face problems. The most vital thing is to be honest with your partner.

Just about every issue and problem can be solved if communication is maintained.

Accept compromise. Many have made this an art, with good reason. The middle ground that will enable a conclusion to the conflict has to mesh with both parties and their interests before it can save your marriage.

Marriage on a whole is about compromise and knowing that there are times when your spouse will have to give, and times when you have to give, in order to keep your marriage healthy and avoid the divorce courts.

Really, a marriage is about commitment.

Don’t give up too easily. Like a car, if it breaks down, you don’t abandon the car on the side of the road. The only time you do get rid of the car is when there is no hope.

Saving your marriage involves the same level of commitment and working towards making things work, if you ever have a chance of saving your marriage.

Sometimes, the damage to the marriage totals it, and no matter what you do, nothing can change it. Some issues cannot be solved, counseling cannot help.

It is in these cases that divorce makes sense. Out side of these cases, divorce is not the answer. Instead, you should work with your partner to solve the issues that plague your marriage, nothing worthwhile in life is easy and marriage is no different.

If you are both prepared to put the work into it you will be able to save your marriage.

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